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Why ‘love you’ isn’t enough

Guess what, I had the profoundest realization while taking a bath: It’s important to complete the phrase “I love you” and not just to say “love you!” or “luv yah!”

Those three words present the deepest of all human mysteries. “I love you”, which so many use lightly, mirror heaven’s greatest mystery: the Triune God, the God who loves us in three ways – the Father who creates, the Son who saves, and the Holy Spirit who sanctifies. Those three words “I,” “love,” and “you” carry so much weight that the essence would be diluted if we just say “love you”, followed by a “LOL” or “xD”.

The “I” signifies one’s possession of self, a person’s lordship and mastery over one’s will which is necessary when giving oneself totally and unconditionally to another. And it’s this totality that brings us to the context of the next word, “love.” The “I” finds its completion in love and that love is always directed to another “self,” that is “you.” The word “I” is important because one cannot give something one doesn’t possess. This shows that self-knowledge and self-mastery are requirements for love.

“I love you” is an expression of human unity. When we say it and live it, we mirror God Himself, who is a family in Trinity where the Father and the Son eternally exchange “I love yous” which is the Holy Spirit. Next time we say “I love you”, let’s think about God, Love itself, who created us to be living “I love yous” to one another.

By John Bernard Ordoñez Caasi

Bernz is a Catholic revert, educator, and speaker. As a former anti-Catholic Protestant, he helps ordinary Catholics understand their faith deeply so they can explain it clearly without being preachy.

He hosts his own podcast (Unboxing Catholicism) and YouTube vlog where he uncovers the truths and lies about Catholic teaching and spirituality. He also travels around the country giving talks on faith, leadership, and personal finance.

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